The funny things you see on a flight

The things you notice on a flight…
So this morning I took a quick trip to Durban for a meeting. Day meeting so fly in and fly out.

I take my seat, they check my boarding pass after I’m seated, guess first time for everything and in front of me by chance notice a guy browsing on his iPhone and upon closer inspection notice he is checking out guns.

Now really each to their own and really not my business but how often do you see someone browsing guns. The funny thing is not that it was guns it was the type of guns, AK47s, and DM4’s, I mean everything chaotic like that.

What was more disturbing was the icon BUY was clicked so many times and so quickly it was clear this man was on a mission. For what? Makes you wonder. What war is raging on within mind or is he a collector maybe or a arms dealer?  Regardless. his effortless purchases of these machines of war was done with such ease and thoughtlessness it was clear he knew exactly what he wanted.

Now if only I could get the preaching behind me switched off. From one extreme to the next I have a guy behind me working his way through his opinion of life, positivity and all that is good clearly from experience which don’t get me wrong, positivity goes a long way especially in this cruel world but dammit time and place time and place.

God is good and life is great but do we have to hear about it in such a confined space for an hour. Trick is don’t make eye contact because he is looking for anyone who will listen.

Here is an idea put lord of war and god of peace next to each other and maybe they can help each other on what they trying to express.

I’m just saying

XXX

Somethings I have learnt and still learning…

Things I have learnt up to now.

What happens today may not happen tomorrow or the same daily routine you have followed for weeks. Months or even years without any warning will change and leaves you in chaos.

In freight, we refer to rates as volatile because unlike years ago, rates were valid for a year and nothing could change it. Today it’s chaos it changes daily and can only be valid month to month.

That’s life, isn’t it? I mean if you sit and think back to a few years back, maybe 5 or maybe 10 and you will notice how things have changed. Not the obvious changes like price hikes and vat increase, no I’m talking about people. Friends, family, husbands and wives even kids, even work colleagues or acquaintances things have definitely changed. It’s as if human beings aren’t acting human anymore. Emotions seem to be null and void and WhatsApping rather than face to face has taken over.

It’s not strangers or acquaintances or even work colleagues, this is spouses or partners. Family and friends who have forgotten what a conversation is all about and rely on social media. It’s completely left us disconnected that sending your husband a lengthy very well presented WhatsApp message of matters of the heart rather than sitting face to face.

Has it really become that? We’ve lost the ability to talk, just talk.

Even friends come and go and I think back now of the childhood friends I had, blood sisters and all of that. Declaring to remain friends for life no matter what….

Yes, I look back because those friends are all gone. Living their own lives, their own friends and in a day everything has changed.

Meeting new people can be extremely volatile and chaotic. Having to trust someone new in the hope they are genuine and could never happen to you that they just con’s or users. I have learnt the hard way, from the actual con to the butter doesn’t melt in their mouth person. I saw the con coming and prepared myself but the other a complete surprise.

So, we don’t put ourselves out there or we take the chance in the hope that it could be real. We become hermits locked in our worlds to keep the others out and in the end the loneliness consumes us until we are forced to put ourselves back out there bitter and broken and end up meeting the exact people we’ve being trying to avoid.

I have had the best friendships and relationships with people I just met and I’ve been badly hurt by the ones I knew my whole life… You just never know and never see it coming.

You can’t shut out the world you can only adapt and be weary and in this case, appreciate the social media frenzy in using the tools to get to know someone before attempting to meet them. Then again those haven’t worked out to well either in cases you hear daily.

WE have to just realize that people and the world and the life we lived 10 years ago, is different. We’ve become tougher and harder and becoming more and more of “each for themselves society”. I don’t say join the forces but try to be street smart and vigilant.

Keep the face to face conversations for family and friends and especially spouses and partners because face to face anything is possible and that interaction can only be good for you.

And the rest… Social media and keep the communication clear and trust that intuition. Honestly has it ever been wrong and how many more times do you want to get burned.

WE live we regret or loose and we learn… Most of the time. We are only human after all… remember to breath and then down that glass of Merlot.

I love you…

What we take for granted.

What we take for granted.

The realisation while watching a silly advert on T.V., of a pregnant lady taking a bite of a cracker and she feels her baby move.

That feeling is something I will never experience.

My heart strings pull as I watch this scene and of course its not the first time I’ve been through it. Through the years I think I played the situation down, using the excuse I didn’t want children or I’m glad I never had. What else do you say ?

Funny how life is and just how much of a sense of humour you need to survive it. Even the most natural normal human expectation of life…and I never got the chance. I will never feel that expectation of expecting, what mother’s to be suffer through and complain about will be something I only wish for. The unforgettable labour pains, sleepless nights, baby weight, no more freedom and the cost of having a child, I will never experience that… in the end I hear the same comment… its all worth it!

I will never know will I…

Still in hope of a dream…

Im just saying